I don't know how many people will buy into the idea that orgasm is bad for you. I certainly have always enjoyed my own and I am, for the most part, happily married for going on 28 years. However, maybe the idea that we are focusing upon orgasm too much and that it is hurting the overall relationship is an idea I can consider. The author goes into the biological impact of orgasm upon the brain and that is very interesting in itself. She also explains how the pair bond is formed and the effects of [...]

Okay so, this book is very repetitious. VERY. For the need for editing (to cut the book by 2/3), I would give this book a star or two. BUT! for the ideas, I would give it five stars. So, despite the drastic need for editing, I'm giving it all five stars.Because the ideas are worth getting to. They really are. At least they were for me. The book gave me scientific reasoning to explain why my marriage is so awesome. Basically, what we've been up to is bonding instead of mating. It was great to ha [...]

For those who simply want the science, first read the "'How Do I Explain This Book To My Friends?': A Synopsis Of Key Ideas" section at the end of the book, then begin reading at chapter 4.

I'm very ambivalent about giving this book 4 stars, because of the many instances where the author misrepresents or cherry-picks scientific studies to support her thesis. For reference, I am currently a working neuroscientist but in my former line-of-work I studied the psychology of addictive behaviors. The author unquestioningly embraces the "dopamine = reward" hypothesis, and a naive interpretation of brain plasticity. The dopamine=reward hypothesis has been effectively criticized by experts a [...]

ILL I keep dreading reading this to do an adequate review. Next time just do one chapter.Read the description of this book. It was probably written by the author. This book does NOT have the newest neuroscience. As far as I know it uses ideas out of context and junk science. Not in the mainstream of science at all. about KerrezaIt gets one star because I don't like this book. It doesn't steer people in a usefull direction IMHO. However it is clear alright, just clearly wrong.Biology has plans f [...]

Nice book that directly (rather than wishy washy and ethereally) discusses the Taoist lovemaking (the physical ramifications of orgasm based sex) and channeling energy between partners. Very practical with sound examples. Through reading this book, I'm FINALLY connecting as to why, after I sleep with someone, I don't want to be around them and would rather "throw them away" and move onto someone new. And why, even with my best efforts, sex still seemed like combative showmanship in orgasm achiev [...]

Could having too much sex be ruining your relationship? Yup, turns out it can. This book dives into why we do what we do, and how we can use the different parts of our brain to not only have more fulfilling relationships, but be happier in general.I'd recommend this book for anyone who wants to make their relationship work, and work well (after the initial 1-2 year honeymoon period).This book was repetitive in parts, but I liked it. It helped me learn and retain the information.

A really interesting perspective on the biological, neurological and psychological consequences of orgasm. Thoroughly engrossing, the facts and research as well as the 'ancient wisdom' tidbits spread throughout really make the book fun to read. It gives a lot of insight into our own behavior and can really help you acquire focus. If you're in a relationship already I definitely recommend it for both partners to read together and share with each other, it's that kind of book.

The book weaves a tapestry of personal example, 3rd person testimony and actual scientific data to explain why relationships seem to just fall apart so easy. Then the book offers a mind blowing solution that has changed my whole outlook on intimate relationships. The book has managed to incite a change in me. 11/10 obnoxiously recommending this to any person I ever meet.

Interesting book and theory. Not a scientist but I recognize the parts with being more sharp after a few days / weeks. Too bad she did not go into more details about how this affects people without a partner.

This book has a chance to be your relationship-saver.

Fantastic, the best book on love and romantic relationships I've read.

Накратко, авторката използва доста научно-звучащи обяснения и допускания, за да промотира нещо подобно на тантра-секс.По-надълго, книгата описва как всъщност човекът имал две отделни системи за привличане между мъжа и жената - едната базирана на размножаването (страст), а д [...]

This was a very intriguing read. Using reference material from a variety of sources (personal experience, scientific study, and spiritual traditions) the author makes a case for more intimacy-based relations between couples. Her premise is that humans have two genetic "programs": a mating program, which drives us toward reproductive (orgasm-based) sex, and a bonding program, which drives us toward pair-bonding (intimacy-based) sex. The latter is more conducive to stable, lasting relationships, a [...]

This book offers insight into the neurochemical changes that take place during various stages of romantic relationships/encounters. As a person who likes to learn about mind-body connections, it was really interesting for me to learn about how the early infatuation stages of a romance are neurochemically speaking pretty much like being on drugs. I had quite a few a-ha moments reading this. The book not only explains in simple terms which neurochemical changes take place and what causes them, but [...]

I recommend this book. The 4 stars is for the way the book is put together, particularly at the end. The ending felt a little fragmented.I found Cupid's Poisoned Arrow thought provoking. I saw several people review the book as triggering a paradigm shift, and I have to agree.I find the idea of the limbic system (mammalian brain) driving behavior that is not necessarily geared toward my happiness, but rather the survival of the species useful. While reading my mind went out on several tangents th [...]

This book covers an interesting idea, and I didn't believe it would be true for me until I actually tried it. The changes really made a difference, and until you try a month or so of it the ideas in this book, and go back to the usual way, you won't know if it applies to you. I was *SURE* it wouldn't apply to us. Wow, was I in for a surprise. There's a hangover, and it's not nice. Of course, we're designed to fertilize and move on (See Sex at Dawn) so the hangover/habituation has it purpose in t [...]

I was more interested in the neurochemical aspects of mating/bonding behaviors than the practical application (Exchanges). To those ends, the book was a fascinating introduction which bridged science with religious/mystical practice. That said, I found the book a bit repetitive and tedious in later chapters and felt that overall, it could have been pared down significantly without loss of meaning.

I loved this book and it really impacted the way I think about sexuality in my relationship significantly. It is a basically a biologically oriented view of sexuality that questions the fundamental "orgasm" oriented sexuality view that is persuasive in our culture today. A great read for discussion among close friends.

Cupid's Poisoned Arrow is highly informative about the way our culture is defining our sexuality today and debunking so many long-time myths. Marnia Robinson is an excellent writer and researcher that produces a well-balanced book through interweaving jaw-dropping scientific facts about neuroscience while keeping the book humorous and upbeat. I loved it!

Informative. Great insight into not only sexual functioning but also the neurochemistry of human psychological experience.

Its a promising idea. I just have no way of testing it out.

An intriguing premise that could have been explained fully in roughly half the number of pages.